RELATIONSHIPS

I think Japanese culture is one of the cultures that are the most strict about people's relationships. For example, relationships depend on age, status, position, and so on. It seems to be more vertical and complicated, different from some foreign cultures. So, I want foreigners to be careful about it.
However, most Japanese people cannot explain or tell the system of relationships in our culture because we have been learning it since we are born and living here. In my opinion, one reason why this system is complicated is that we have honorific language, which some cultures doesn't have. We use it in not only the situations that foreigners learn from textbooks, but also various appropriate situations that only we know. One example is the first meetings especially meeting person who really see for the first time. Most Japanese people use honorific language even if the partners seem to be younger than or same age as themselves. Another example is in companies or societies. Workers use honorific language to bosses even if the bosses are younger than or same as themselves. But they might start to use peer language when they get close.
I want foreigners who come to Japan to know that they cannot learn Japanese relationship system from textbooks, and to experience and learn actually here.